One of the most traditional ways to meet a girl is at the gym. But before you talk to her in this place, you should know what steps to take so as not to look like a loser.
In fact, you have to remember that this is not as easy to do as it seems. This is not for the weak. Approaching a girl and starting a conversation is a risky step, because some ladies basically don’t meet each other at the gym, while others are already busy with other guys.
Oddly enough, it is much harder for men to start a conversation, unlike girls. Sometimes they lack determination, and not everyone likes to be rejected.
Here are some practical tips that will help you win the heart of the most unapproachable girl in the gym.
Stay calm, don't show emotion
A mistake many guys make is trying to make eye contact with a girl. Be that as it may, you can occasionally glance in her direction, but it is important to do it unobtrusively, unnoticeably. If you accidentally make eye contact, do not show unnecessary emotions.
But if it turns out that the girl catches your gaze too often, you better not look in her direction anymore. Look away if you don't want the lady to have a bad opinion of you. If a girl smiles at you, this is a sign - it's time to act. If not, then admit defeat and run out of the gym as soon as possible.
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How do women's gyms differ from men's gyms and vice versa?
The facility is a fitness room “for women.”
The task is to analyze the types of simulators and the number of training zones.
Existing stereotypes - the decor of the gym is made in pastel colors (mostly pink), the walls are painted with butterflies and flowers.
The main classes are fitness and aerobics, which means you need step platforms, fitness balls, yoga mats, and a set of bright dumbbells with weights up to 4 kg. Plus an area for cardio and aerobic exercise. And many, many selfie mirrors.
How is it really going? Women visit fitness clubs for different purposes. Communication is important to some, photo reports for social networks are important to others, others come to improve the physical parameters of the body, and others are eager to achieve sports records. And there are also a dozen or two personal goals that are impossible to describe.
Typical women's gym
Just be friendly
Often, not only callous and narcissistic guys go to the gym. Sometimes you can meet nice, helpful young people in the hall! They do not behave intrusively towards girls. These are guy friends who happily help girls in difficult times. It's always nice to see a friendly face at the gym. And if you often cross paths with a girl at the gym and behave normally, she will certainly pay attention to you. Therefore, make sure that in the eyes of the lady you look like a friendly guy, and not a nasty guy who stares and winks all the time.
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How to determine a lady's readiness for dating?
The gym is not a place for dating and the majority of girls come with one goal: to work on their body. However, there are people whose position is neutral, and sometimes they have a desire for communication on a subconscious level. Such girls even practice makeup and maintain a good hairstyle. I advise you to pay attention to them.
Distinctive features:
- wear perfume and always wear makeup;
- make contact easily and behave positively;
- the technique of performing exercises often suffers;
- ask others for tips;
- come to the club with friends.
There is a category of women who come purely for the sake of meeting people in fitness clubs. They can be recognized by the following characteristics:
- the lady often preens herself, straightening her clothes and hair;
- is the first to make eye contact and often glances briefly in your direction;
- smiles back;
- does a squat right in front of your face.
Don't waste your time on beauties who make it clear with their appearance that they came to the gym to train.
Identify those who are “available” based on the above criteria and then success will be on your side!
Focus on winning
And under no circumstances should you hit on every pretty girl at the gym if you don’t want to get a bad reputation. Because then girls will no longer consider you special. Perhaps the best advice is to be tactful and extremely careful. Believe me, no one likes annoying guys.
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How gym behavior characterizes people
According to experienced fitness gurus, with their work, over time, you become such a psychologist that you can see at first glance what the client is like. And a “portrait gallery” of the most frequently encountered characters makes their classification easier.
“During sports activities, a person’s character manifests itself most clearly,” assures world champion in pankration (fighting without rules among professionals), a specialist in self-defense and physical improvement, Pavel Boloyangov. — In the gym you meet the same human types as in everyday life, but they are more prominent and obvious. It's funny to watch how a person tries to deceive himself and others or, conversely, sets himself super-goals and is killed if he cannot achieve them. It’s a special pleasure to see how visitors try to impress the opposite sex. Fitness flirting is a different story altogether! If you take a closer look at how couples try to build relationships without leaving the gym, it’s not hard to guess how they do it outside the gym.
Narcissists crave doping
Experienced instructors distinguish “narcissists” by the way they emerge from the locker room: all muscle groups are carefully pumped, equipment is from the best brands, and they have a detached look. “Daffodils” are avid fitness enthusiasts, renewing their membership to their favorite gym year after year. Most often they are male, although there are exceptions. According to fitness mentors, a “narcissist” comes to the club for his main benefit - the admiration of other visitors. At the same time, envy in the eyes of people of the same sex is even more important to him than the admiration of the opposite. The “narcissist” ignores group classes, solemnly parading into the gym. He pumps thoroughly and beautifully, moving from simulator to simulator and keeping them busy for a long time. He reacts sluggishly to the advice of the gym instructor: he knows everything himself. He casually catches the admiring glances of others, demonstrating in every possible way his immersion in training. He communicates sparingly with other club visitors, only when necessary. If another “narcissist” appears in the visual zone, an unspoken competition immediately begins between them: muscles play, the barbells are overgrown with new “pancakes” (weights).
“After classes, “narcissists” usually sit in a fitness bar, consuming sports cocktails, the intake regimen of which is well known to them even without us,” shares Andrey, an instructor at one of the clubs in the center of the capital. “At this moment, girls who have their eye on them at the gym often try to hit on them.
The “narcissist” usually lazily accepts the lady’s cues, as if not understanding what they want from him. In response, he only smiles and nods, but does not take the initiative. As a result, the girl gives up trying to establish closer contact with him, believing that he did not like her.
“But we’ve been watching our “daffodils” for a long time,” Andrey clarifies, “and we know for sure: over many years of visiting the club, only a few have met girls. And as for the way their clients glue them, mom don’t worry!
According to the pros, with rare exceptions, “narcissists” are convinced loners. In fitness, they do not need instructors, but an “audience” in the form of visitors. It was noticed more than once how the “narcissist”, finding the hall empty, quickly ended the training. Narcissistic couples are also common. They do everything the same as a lonely “narcissist”, only in parallel.
“Both he and she are in good physical and expensive sports shape,” Andrey describes such couples. “They come together, but they hardly communicate with each other.” From the scant remarks one can understand that this is a married couple who, apparently, intersect mainly in fitness. For example, after a long silence, a woman may suddenly ask from her simulator whether the man will have dinner at home tomorrow. It becomes clear that this is a family, but only a specific one. In the hall, each of them sees only their loved one - which means that in everyday life, most likely, too. Therefore, they have a kind of harmony. According to the club security guards, such couples even drive away in different cars after classes.
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"Lamp Chan" comes to take a selfie
This lady, according to the observations of the instructors, is a fellow female “narcissist” - the same club regular, deep in narcissism. Only, unlike the “narcissist,” “chan” also endlessly takes selfies. “Lamp Chan” (in youth slang - the ideal girl) is easy to distinguish by appearance: a well-thought-out shape, a pumped-up figure, well-thought-out movements and a body fried in a solarium. Everything she has is branded, including shampoos and washcloths. And especially gadgets. “Tyan” has a whole arsenal of them: she measures the pulse, lost calories, kilometers and kilograms, and listens to the trainer, not a live one, but a virtual one, from the device. The “chan” always brings a selfie stick to the hall. She takes selfies on all exercise equipment, including the treadmill, as well as in the pool, in the locker room and in front of every mirror. “Chan” catches admiring glances addressed to him, notes them, but does not react in any way. Most often she comes alone, smiles only when taking a selfie, the rest of the time her facial expression is arrogant and distant.
“Tyans are no less fitness addicts than narcissists,” says instructor Andrey. - If they happen to miss the “rocking chair”, they are sincerely killed and zealously make up for it. Every time they meticulously examine themselves in the mirror, measure their waist, hips, buttocks and forearms. They love to weigh themselves, but are terribly afraid that someone will see the scale readings. In the hall they work honestly until their phone rings. If this happens, the “chan” immediately loses his arrogance. She sits down on the exercise machine, lifting her legs up and not caring that there is a line of people waiting for him, and begins to communicate loudly to the whole room. In conversation, he most often discusses other women, less often men. The assessments of both of them are predominantly negative, although in relation to her invisible interlocutor she is extremely nice and actively inserts into her speech appeals like “kisa-bay”.
“Merry girlfriends” are not averse to meeting each other
This category does not depend on age. “Veselyushki” come to fitness out of boredom, for company, or wanting to meet a sporty guy, “so that he doesn’t drink or smoke.” And sometimes for all reasons at once. Most often, the “fun people” are colleagues or girlfriends: the whole group buys “on sale” subscriptions for a period of one to three months and comes in a whole flock to the lesson. They are extremely far from sports. Their equipment is uncomfortable, their sneakers are wrong, their figures have no traces of training. But they are always dressed up, friendly, smiling, laughing and flirting - both with visitors and with instructors. They prefer group classes (dancing, yoga, stretching) and water aerobics in the pool; if they wander into the gym, they pester the instructor with questions and requests to show how to use the equipment. “Veselushki” order individual training sessions more often than others, which is why instructors love them.
“Of course, not all “merry girls” come to the club to find a partner,” says Denis, a senior trainer at a gym at a health complex near Moscow, “many of them wear wedding rings.” But they still don’t miss the opportunity to make new acquaintances. They perk up at the sight of athletic handsome men and vigorously express their admiration by giggling. And for the good: with their laughter and flirtations they create excitement in the hall. They do not strive to show themselves; it is more important for them to look at others, get to know each other and communicate. True, if they fail to make new acquaintances in the club, they begin to vigorously communicate with each other, interfering with the training process. They sit comfortably on the exercise equipment or in the locker room and begin leisurely conversations about everything in the world - from cooking and floriculture to grandchildren and politics. The “merry girls” also like to occupy the club sauna, where they also chatter incessantly.
Despite the noise they create, coaches are always happy to have fun, considering them positive and grateful students. The only pity is that most of them disappear from the club no later than three months and rarely renew their membership. According to the instructor, they also disappear in groups, just as they appeared, without really improving their physical shape.
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Losing weight gluttons want to talk about it
This, according to the instructors, is a special class of visitors - they come to the fitness club to lose weight and talk about it all the time. They have two topics for conversation: how to lose weight quickly and how to eat tastier. In the locker room, those “losing weight” are sure to have “healthy snacks” - apples, crackers, etc. Between classes, they hurry to their drawers to quickly chew something. “Those who are losing weight” are obsessed with all sorts of diets and healthy eating methods, and trainers mainly ask about this. In between exercises, they remember with pleasure their favorite dishes and lament that from now on “dinner is taboo for them.” In representatives of the opposite sex, they are only interested in weight: looking at slender bodies, they dream out loud that “they will soon get in shape, and then...”
“Those who lose weight usually have a lot of plans, and all of them are utopian,” smiles Pilates instructor (gymnastics aimed at stretching muscles) Alena. “It seems to them that we are magicians here, and the main thing is to find out from us the secret to quickly losing weight.” They set themselves incredible deadlines, planning to lose half the weight in a couple of months. They listen carefully to the coach’s advice, but quickly become exhausted during classes. Only a few “losing weight” people manage to force themselves to do all the recommended exercises and approaches. Having not seen the benefit of exercise, those “losing weight” are usually disappointed in the benefits of fitness, and at the same time in the trainer, often voicing their complaints out loud. It is those who are “losing weight” who then spread the idea that physical activity does not contribute to weight loss. But a couple of years ago we had a unique case: a fat client hired an instructor to guide her through an individual weight loss program designed for six months. It was clear to the naked eye that she really liked him. And suddenly I started losing weight! At this point he also became interested in her - at first as the work of his own hands. I got involved in their training, waited for them, prepared. As a result, after six months the fat woman was reduced in size by half, and they began a serious affair with the handsome instructor...
The instructors admit that, despite the frequent disappointments of those “losing weight” in the benefits of fitness activity, they are always welcome at the club: they more often than others pay for course massages and all sorts of additional services such as individual diet selection.
"Dummies" often get stuck
Oddly enough, in the eyes of instructors, “dummies” are the most adequate clients of a fitness club. And it is with them that coaches of both sexes often have affairs, and even legal marriages. According to the mentors, the intentions of these clients are extremely transparent: they come from a sincere desire to join the world of fitness and try out all types of training. “Dummies” take into account the advice of professionals and try to strictly follow their instructions, without being distracted by idle conversations, criticism of service and discussion of the appearance and achievements of other visitors.
“The “dummies” are trying to get in good shape with the help of an instructor,” says instructor Andrey. — Another thing is that not everyone can withstand certain loads. Some people quit training over time, others start going less often. But there are also those who come as complete suckers in terms of fitness (zero skills, uncomfortable equipment), and after a month or two they are completely different people - fit, collected, properly equipped, steadily improving their results. These are “dummies” who have become accustomed to regular loads. It's all about desire, attitude, priorities and goals. If the goal matches the profile of the fitness club, then the client soon begins to feel like part of a team that has one task - to improve their body, and with it their spirit and health. It's great to see the transformation of "dummies" into what we call fitness enlightened. These are people who respect and observe their body culture in all aspects: they exercise regularly, eat right, lead a healthy lifestyle and, most importantly, think positively. A couple of years ago, a Muslim girl came to a branch of our club in one of the residential areas of Moscow - her head was covered, her clothes were long. She really wanted to study, but she was embarrassed to appear in the common room even in a tracksuit; our trainers had to persuade her. On the very first evening of her stay, a scandal occurred: some men came to the club (later it turned out that they were her fiancé and his friends) and took her away by force. We thought we would never see her. But a couple of days later she appeared again: she said that she had left her fiancé and would continue to work no matter what. It turned out, according to her fiancé, that playing sports in the same room with unfamiliar men means “exposing yourself” and “disgracing your family.” Our strength training instructor volunteered to accompany her home: she was afraid that her fiancé would stalk her and steal her. You should see her now! Her figure would decorate any sports advertisement, and now no one is stopping her from improving her body: she married her escort.
Find a reason to start a conversation
You may not need courage to approach and meet a girl if you have some interesting topics to talk about. Perhaps the easiest option is to go up and ask the lady if she knows how to properly work on this or that exercise machine. This is a completely normal question, and any girl will be pleased to know that there are helpful guys in the gym. She will appreciate your attention and this could be the start of something good.
Where to start preparing for dating at the gym
It doesn’t matter if you want to lure into bed or conquer one person you like, or you get to know any beauty you like, the preparation for meeting will always be similar to each other.
You should be dressed neatly, sportily and of course comfortably.
Personally, I write this way because my wife can read it because I don’t set myself the goal of meeting a girl in the gym, I dress there haphazardly. Old worn-out shorts, some ancient T-shirt found in my father’s closet, flip-flops for bare feet. You (your wife is not reading these lines) need to look more presentable to attract her attention. There is no need to go too far and put on tight cowboy pants and the best T-shirt from your wardrobe. Your clothes must meet a number of criteria:
- be comfortable;
- be athletic;
- not very worn;
- your size.
Neatness is needed not only in clothing. Take care of your hair, allow yourself a little eau de toilette before training. Antiperspirant is a must!
Your victim, the girl you liked, needs to get used to you a little!
To do this, I advise you to flash your gaze in front of her nose, let her pay attention to you and have time to get used to your texture a little. To make the flash more convincing, you can depict some heartbreaking scene with elements of drama:
The speed of the attack depends on your suspiciousness . You can hang around with her for an hour and pick her up on the way out of the gym. Or you can figure it out for a month before you decide. However, I don’t recommend pulling the cat’s balls too tightly. What if during this time someone more determined approaches her?
Before you meet a girl, make eye contact with the girl.
Play a staring game and watch her reaction carefully. Try this trick: look at her interestedly until she notices your gaze. Girls have much better developed peripheral vision than us. The girl will certainly notice your interested glance, even from the opposite end of the hall, sooner or later.
After she mistakes you for a maniac and returns your gaze, immediately feign embarrassment and look away. Now it's your turn to use your peripheral vision. Watch her behavior to see if she is interested in your attention. If, with the help of a bunch of mirrors that every self-respecting gym is hung with, you saw her gaze turned in your direction, let your gaze meet again. Now you no longer need to hide your eyes cowardly; on the contrary, the longer your glances intersect, the greater your chances of meeting this beauty during training.
Just don’t look at her like a statue with the face of a Terminator. Allow yourself a slight smile like Jim Carrey in Ace Ventura or Bruce Willis in Die Hard. And if she reciprocated, smiled back, consider it a done deal. Well, or half the battle
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Well, if for some reason all this did not happen, read the next paragraph carefully.
Be humble
Unfortunately, almost without exception, guys and girls are afraid to be the first to start a conversation, especially in the gym. Many of us are intimidated because everyone around us seems to know how to use the machines properly. Especially in the first days we feel lost.
If a girl is doing an exercise you haven't tried before, don't be afraid to approach her and ask for help. You can ask her to show you how to do a particular exercise correctly. Or ask what muscle groups it targets. Girls love to be considered smart when guys ask questions about training.
How can you tell if a girl is ready to date?
Pickup experts claim that questions about how to meet a guy at the gym are found on the Internet much more often than questions about meeting girls in such conditions. Accordingly, men’s chances are much higher than they actually think. Psychologists even claim that more than half of the gym goers go there not for a beautiful body, but for a beautiful and strong partner.
Despite this, some girls are already in relationships or come to the gym only to improve their physical capabilities. Therefore, experts name several defining indicators of girls’ favor for dating or, conversely, lack of desire for it. Pay attention to the following criteria:
- Girl's sports uniform. If a girl performs a whole range of different exercises with a pronounced focus on training, and she has the best shape in the gym, most likely she is an ardent sports fan. Accordingly, she has already seen such suitors during her long period of training, and her only purpose for visiting the gym is training.
- Headphones. If a girl does not part with her headphones during every workout, then her entire attention is devoted to sports. Thus, it shows a lack of desire to communicate with anyone.
You can also pay attention to the girl’s views; if she does not pay attention to the surrounding visitors to the hall, it means that she is not at all interested in communicating with anyone. Otherwise, girls can play sports, but also pursue other goals, for example, finding a potential boyfriend.
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Don't throw around compliments
Yes, it might sound funny, but if you compliment her every time she does a curtsy, she might think you're a little horny. Even if you praise a girl for her curves or the correctness of her exercises, she will not regard it as a compliment. Forget about compliments altogether. Outside the gym, do it for your health. Never in the gym.
Being the first to talk to a girl at the gym is not an easy task, but if you follow these tips, you will win the heart of any girl!
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