There is a disease of the anus (anus) that people try not to talk about, especially people who suffer from this disease. Weakening of the rectal sphincter makes it difficult to retain feces and gases. Is it possible to strengthen it? How to treat and is recovery possible? Fortunately, few people (up to 7%) have such manifestations. But for them, the problems of smell and shame become a nightmare.
Thinking about anal sex
Psychological preparation includes forming the right attitude in yourself and your partner, setting goals, explaining to your partner and yourself why this is necessary and what risks are associated with it - bringing intuitive knowledge to the level of consciousness, explaining it and accepting it. Refusal of anal sex, if the partner understands that this variety is really important, is a reason to find deep psychological reasons, solve the problem, and strengthen the relationship. Physical training also requires attention and time.
Lubrication2
This is a very important aspect for painless anal sex. If we consider the anus from an anatomical point of view, it produces lubricant for the movement of excrement. However, this lubricant is sorely lacking, and therefore outside help is needed.
Many people use saliva for lubrication. Free lubrication that's always with you. In fact, it is better to avoid it. Since it contains a large number of bacteria that can cause infection. When engaging in anilingus or cunnilingus, a person cannot carry these bacteria deep enough. But with anal sex it's easier than ever.
The second most commonly used is Vaseline. But it also has its drawbacks. Take, for example, its consistency. It is changeable, and during sex it can become either thicker or less frequent. Changes in texture lead to discomfort and pain. Vaseline is based on a fatty base, which is not easy to clean from the walls of the vagina and anus. Vaseline should be medical grade for such purposes.
Lubricant is the right choice in such a situation. It is specially designed for sexual manipulation, so it is closest in composition and properties to natural lubricant. It is preferable to choose a water-based lubricant. After all, it is non-toxic, quick-drying and easy to wash off.
Different sizes – is happiness possible?
There are many differences between the rectum and the vagina, but there are also similarities. The average length of the vagina is 8-12 cm. The length of the rectum in both men and women is 14-18 cm. Thus, length is the first cardinal difference.
And this is one of the main advantages that people who love each other have inappropriate genitals. The vagina consists of muscles, has elasticity, and can stretch in length and width. The rectum is less elastic. The average length of the penis is 13-15 cm.
During sexual intercourse, the vagina is stretched, the uterus is massaged, and not only the cervix is stimulated. During anal sex in men, attention and sensations are dispersed, concentration in the area of the head of the penis is reduced, the range of feelings is greater, but the sensations of women are personal and depend on individual characteristics. The difference between sensations during classical intercourse and anal intercourse is large and significant.
A small penis can destroy a man’s self-esteem, a long one can destroy a woman’s body. The longest penis is considered to be 33.5 cm long and 15 cm in girth. This is an officially recorded record. Men with incredibly large penises have more options in anal sex than in vaginal sex. Although caution is still required, there is more freedom.
When the penis is of modest size, you cannot do without a strong vaginal erection, interesting poses and bold experiments. Anal sex will solve many problems for men with modest penis sizes and will give more pleasure. Regardless of size, it is important that the partner wants to satisfy her partner, takes care of his pleasure, but still does not forget about safety measures.
If a large penis is inaccurately inserted into the vagina or rectum, ruptures, blood loss, and death may occur without urgent medical intervention. Here the difference between them is small. The easiest way to avoid this is always special penis rings.
Training
Before you start shaking your buttocks, you need to get them in order. Pump up your butt, tone your muscles with exercises that must be performed systematically and regularly.
- Squats. Goal: to make the butt more prominent and elastic. The gluteal muscles will become stronger.
- Feet shoulder-width apart, back straight, arms at your sides.
- Squat low, bend your knees smoothly, and put your butt slightly back.
- Perform 10 times in 2 approaches, best in the morning and evening.
- Crocodile. Goal: learn to move your buttocks one at a time. The butt will become more mobile.
- Sit on the floor, legs straight in front of you.
- Walk moving your buttocks.
- 30 steps forward and the same number back.
- Perform daily at any time.
- Swing your leg. Goal: toned and firm buttocks.
- The pose is on all fours, arms straight.
- Swing your legs upward, knees bent.
- Right 8 times
- Left 8 times.
- Do 3 approaches.
- Perform daily.
Change the size of the genitals
Most often, the penis remains as it is all its life.
Poses, foreplay, experiments can solve many problems. With the help of means it can be increased. Also, plastic surgery will come to the aid of both women and men who want to change themselves and their genitals. But plastic surgery will not replace that courage, audacity, joy from sexual victories, when he seeks answers to the mysteries of nature, seeks love, sincerity, understanding, health, abstracts from his genitals, and opens them again.
“Everyone has their own quirks”: where and how to learn to shake your butt, stand on pointe shoes and spin around a pole
For girls, fitness and the gym are gradually fading into the background: increasingly, preference is now given to workouts created specifically for a woman and taking into account the specifics of her body. The ballet barre replaces the exercise machine, and intense aerobic exercise replaces dancing.
Here is an interview with teachers of ballet and twerking, pole and stretching, and I found out how many girls do the splits just to take beautiful photos, why stylish sneakers and short shorts are very important, what kind of female figure is now in fashion and how to be thin, but very strong.
Stretching
A set of exercises called “stretching” has always been an integral part of any workout. Previously, stretching was a component of the cool-down: 15 minutes at the end of the workout were devoted to bending and lunging, relieving stress on the muscles. In recent years, stretching has become an independent area, and now it is taught as a separate lesson and even specialized schools are opened.
What girls expect from classes
The popularity of stretching, it seems to me, is dictated by fashion: now many girls are more interested in a ballet figure than a sports figure. She looks more sophisticated and feminine, and this is noticeable at first glance.
Every girl who comes to stretch knows why she needs it. The reasons are different for everyone and sometimes very funny: everyone has their own quirks in their heads. One wants to do the splits for her vacation - she needs beautiful photos from the trip, another has health problems, the third wants to teach herself. There are also a certain number of girls who go to classes only because men ask them: it may be painful and unpleasant for them themselves, but they continue to strive for their young men.
What does stretching actually do?
Stretching is about a person’s physical well-being. Stretching first of all develops a person’s abilities: for some, it reveals natural abilities that people were not even aware of before practicing. Sometimes a girl comes for the first time and by the end of the lesson she’s already doing the splits, because she’s flexible by nature, but she didn’t know it.
Stretching has a beneficial effect on posture, spine, urinary system, hip joints, which need additional attention due to our sedentary lifestyle. Now every third person has a pinched sciatic nerve in the sacrum: longitudinal splits are the best thing that can help in this case.
Often girls come to just relax. At first, people don’t do this very well - I explain that attention needs to be concentrated on breathing, and not on pain, then you gradually begin to feel your body and then, during stretching, you can completely turn off your head.
Some come to lose weight and actually lose weight: during training, hormones are released, the body experiences stress (it is called manageable and does not harm), thanks to which you can lose weight.
Also, during training, endorphins are released - the girl feels very good after training. Well, then the addiction begins: one lesson, a second, a third - it becomes clear that after training you feel great. Stretching is already like a drug - you can’t live without it.
TRAINING INTENSITY Twice a week for beginners, three for intermediates
CLOTHING UNIT Comfortable, tight sportswear, sneakers, shoes or socks
Twerk (booty dance)
The fashionable women's dance twerk, also known as booty dance, according to some sources, arose even earlier than hip-hop: prototypes of the main elements appeared in strip clubs in New Orleans back in the days of the popularity of jazz. Nowadays, twerk is a dynamically shaking butt in short shorts, which can be seen at almost any dance party.
What girls expect from classes
This year there was just a boom in twerking: everyone decided that they definitely needed to learn how to shake their butt. New girls, who see that booty dancing is not their culture at all, come and say: “I see that everyone is doing it, so I thought that I need it too.” But why do you need to be like everyone else?
We need to be frank: people don’t learn twerking “for themselves.” Where will you dance? At home, while you cook borscht, will you shake your butt, will you dance for your grandmother on her birthday, or will you show it to your parents? Girls come to classes because it’s fashionable, because it’s an opportunity to get on stage: now, no matter what party you come to, there’s always someone shaking their butt.
What does booty dancing actually give?
Twerking is a “black” culture; many of us sometimes do not understand that it is not for “whites”. A girl who twerks is expensive, she gives a man status. Such a girl shows that he has money, that he is a swag.
You need to understand that booty dancing will not pump you up anything. This is more of a cardio program than a strength program. Of course, the exercises will give a slight tone to your legs, because you are squatting all the time, but your butt will not tighten up. I never say that my exercises tighten my butt: as a person who squats, I know what exactly tightens my butt and how much I need to put into it. In a bootie, the butt is in a relaxed state almost all the time.
Twerking is a dance, here you need to think, listen to music, try to get into the rhythm. Some people think that this is the most calorie-intensive direction, but they lose weight not here, but on a bike, for example. Any exercise helps you lose weight, but booty doesn’t have any particular effect on your weight.
TRAINING INTENSITY For progress - four times a week plus the gym
CLOTHING UNIFORM Short shorts made of elastic material, knee pads, sneakers, tank top or T-shirt
Pylon
Pole, already a recognized sport, does not necessarily come from striptease. Artists in the Indian circus perform their tricks on a silicone pole, for example. But this circumstance did not prevent many prejudices from appearing. Essentially, pole dancing is a dance in the air. In the last couple of years, many studios have opened in the city, where they teach both dancing and pole tricks; specialized halls have even appeared in sports clubs.
What girls expect from classes
Each girl in the gym has her own goals, but the majority, of course, comes to improve their figure. Some people come for self-confidence, even for psychological support. Many come to surprise their husband or boyfriend - for this we stage special dance numbers. All girls want good stretching and beautiful photos.
What does a pylon actually provide?
Pole training greatly affects your character. Girls not only change in appearance, but also become much more confident in themselves and open up. To practice pole, you need to be very focused and be able to give it your all, no matter how hard it is.
The form is developed with training, with each lesson the result becomes better and better and the girls turn into more purposeful. Pole develops not only physically, but also morally.
Like any physical activity, the pole also has a healing effect, if, of course, everything is done correctly, without overloading or straining the body. The flexibility of the back increases, the muscles become toned. Girls are getting stronger.
TRAINING INTENSITY Two to three times a week
CLOTHING UNIFORM Warm clothes for warming up, for classes - shorts, short top, socks and high-heeled shoes
Ballet
After the famous dancer Ilze Liepa opened a ballet school for non-professionals in the early 2000s, lessons in body ballet, an adapted set of exercises, began to appear in the programs of many studios. And then ballet schools began to open en masse, in which choreographers and ballet dancers help girls who have always dreamed of pointe shoes to perform steps and wear chiffon skirts with dignity.
What girls expect from classes
People are fed up with fitness: so many specialized establishments have opened that sometimes supply exceeds demand. In addition, during fitness classes you will not get the same relief that ballet gives.
Most often, two categories of girls come to classes. The first ones come to join the beautiful art, because from childhood they have unfulfilled dreams related to ballet. The latter want to get in shape. Almost no one has the task of preparing themselves for the stage - everyone understands that they are doing it for the soul.
What does ballet really give?
There is nothing more relevant than ballet for girls now. This is not a physiological art; it uses many muscles that are not used in the life of an ordinary person. Therefore, such physical work has a positive effect on appearance, from gait to posture. A ballet dancer can always be distinguished in a crowd - art leaves its mark.
The girls performing in the performances look very thin, they have small, slender legs with good definition, but nevertheless they dance two-hour performances: they are no weaker than those with huge muscles. And this is a big plus of ballet: while maintaining your fragile feminine forms, you gain strength, will and endurance.
Not every person is ready to work out their abs, legs and back for two hours a day, if this is not their profession. At a ballet school you listen to classical music, practice dance and at the same time improve your body. And then: ballet is a drug; even non-professionals, after a while, stop treating lessons as exercise.
Ballet is the basis for any person involved in dance activities. Classical dance is a fundamental subject, like the piano for a musician.
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Get used to your penis size
What is the longest vagina? People have never thought much about this and it’s not surprising, because this organ gradually changes throughout life. But what it is like - an anal hole that easily allows the penis to enter has always been interesting. In ancient times, lesbianism and homosexuality were 100% socially acceptable.
But in the 20th and 21st centuries, it was not homosexuality that became the source of the popularity of anal sex, but disproportions of the genital organs and their racial conditioning, interest in cultural and historical traditions in sex among different nations.
A variety of positions and sex toys will help partners adapt to each other, break stereotypes, and enjoy their genitals to the maximum.
After childbirth, the vagina becomes wider, less elastic, attractive, and requires careful attention from the woman, sometimes during a period of rehabilitation and special exercises.
The vagina can be artificially stretched in length and width. However, this must be done carefully, because incorrect actions can provoke the development of a disease, such as uterine prolapse, for example, and not only. You can’t really stretch the rectum, you can only increase the width of the entrance. Its length is an individual feature of the body; each person has its own.
With frequent anal sex, consequences are possible, such as impaired motility of the rectal muscles, problems with digestion, defecation, and mucous membranes. If discomfort occurs, it is better to stop the partner, pause for a while, or end the experiment.
Booty shake dance
After the butt is in the desired shape, you can start dancing. To manage your loin beautifully, you need to do the following:
· stand in front of the mirror (facing it);
· bend your knees (slightly);
· rest your hands on your knees;
· imagine that something is in the way from behind (for example, a coin got into your panties);
· start moving your buttocks alternately, trying to eliminate an invisible object;
· legs and arms should remain static, body straight.
It may not work out the first time, but this is not a reason for frustration. If preliminary preparation has been made (all exercises were performed systematically), then there will be no problems with the technique.
After you master this simple movement, you can proceed to a more complex one - moving your butt and hip. To do this you need:
· squat slightly on your knees;
· put your hands on your sides;
· make rotational movements in a circle with the entire pelvis.
This is also the basis of how to learn to shake your booty! This exercise should not be neglected, since it allows you to learn how to control your movements.
Last activity: shaking your buttocks up and down. The starting position here will be the same as in the first exercise. Only the buttocks move up and down at the same time, first slowly to feel your body, then faster.
Clitoral, uterine, anal orgasm
To have anal sex you need the desire of your partner. It can be difficult to admit. Just as a man sometimes looks for a way to talk about his dream, passionate desire and does not dare, so a woman can be embarrassed.
Anal is a leap into the unknown, a wonderful journey that is sometimes impossible. It is often called harmful and for good reason. Dangers and risks really exist, they cannot be ignored or denied.
It is important to understand your partner’s position if anal sex is denied. It is important to understand the meaning of refusal and make a decision whether to continue to seduce or forget about this idea. The dangers and risks of anal sex for men and women are not so much biological dangers and risks, but psychological ones.
It is known that the formation of human sexuality begins in childhood. It is part of the personality, the so-called libido. Libido in psychology is mental energy, the energy of life. Every person in childhood learns social norms and personal hygiene rules.
How to go to the toilet correctly is one of the wisdoms. Saying goodbye to her occurs during anal sex. It evokes strong emotions. The anus is also associated with the understanding: nothing lasts forever, life will end someday.
A woman may experience more pleasure from anal sex than from vaginal sex. However, the large intestine cannot replace the vagina, take over its functions, and is not a sexual organ.
Starting a sexual relationship with anal sex and not paying due attention to caressing the external genitalia during it is sometimes a wrong decision. Sometimes a man just wants to relax, feel the features of the large intestine, the shaft of the penis, and experience the joy of involuntary ejaculation. Women's sexuality and sensual experience can suffer from this.
If a woman experiences mainly clitoral, uterine orgasm is still unfamiliar or unusual to her, which, unfortunately, often happens, achieving it after anal sex is twice as difficult a task as before.
If a man is ready to try, and a woman is ready to take risks, all that is probably needed is minimal knowledge of human anatomy and the structure of the large intestine.
When the clitoral orgasm and the uterine orgasm are familiar, you should not hesitate, putting off the invaluable experience for later. Anal sex has many benefits, not only for men, but also for women.
Fingers to the rescue3
For the first time, this is an ideal option. Despite the fact that the fingers are small in diameter, they must be inserted with extreme caution. To begin with, you can insert one finger to a depth of up to six centimeters. There should be no sudden movements. There is no place for haste and harshness in anal sex. After all, the muscles of the anus must get used to relaxation gradually.
At first, involuntary contractions may occur, but this is normal. Soon the discomfort will pass, and you can begin further expansion. It is worth understanding that it is impossible to make a hole of the required diameter in a day. Some will succeed in this in a week, and for others in a couple of months.
Structure of the rectum
Toys for anal sex were invented for a reason, just like lubricants. Once upon a time they did not exist, but there were improvised means with which they were replaced. Using improvised means is too dangerous. It is important to know theoretically what the rectum is.
It is important to know in practice what it is. Toys for anal masturbation are needed not only by a man and his prostate. With the help of a toy, you can combine the pleasure of clitoral, uterine and anal orgasm in women.
Toys in bed for a woman are triple pleasure. With the help of a toy, a woman can easily explore her anus on her own, understand herself, and reveal her sensuality.
Alas, there are no erogenous zones in the anus itself in women, unlike the anus in men, only sensitive areas. Only the partner’s penis, toys, emotional attachment, erotic fantasy will give pleasure.
Anal masturbation is more difficult for a woman than for a man - there is a difference between a penis and a dildo. However, this also happens.
However, the imagination is not always so developed and it may take some time to become aware of the rectum and your pleasure. Usually the erogenous zone is just the entrance to the anus, the area of the sphincters. If you use toys yourself, you can remove psychological barriers and reduce the level of emotional stress.
Anal can be dangerous entertainment.
- Firstly, the rectum is not completely straight and sharp frictions can damage it.
- Secondly, there is no lubricant in it, like in the vagina, there are nerve endings, again unlike it, and, accordingly, sex can cause pain.
- Thirdly, a strong spasm is possible, and in this case it is impossible to do without antispasmodic drugs or medical intervention.
Such a spasm is also possible during vaginal sex; however, it has its own specifics and is known as vaginismus.
Exploring the anus with toys, fingers, and caresses allows you to concentrate on pleasure. It is a myth that there are bacteria and microbes in the rectum that cause some specific diseases of the genitourinary system if you engage in anal sex. If they are present in the rectum, they will soon be present in the vagina.
The microflora of the rectum is slightly different in composition than the microflora of other mucous membranes, but is not harmful. The anus, the entrance to the anus, is formed by two sphincters - rings of muscles.
One sphincter is located at the very beginning, at the entrance itself, the second is located a little deeper. The habit of inserting sex toys into the anus, the habit of a size close to the size of the partner’s penis, will significantly reduce the risk of spasms and the risk of developing problems with rectal motility in women.
In the case of anal sex, motor skills will be unnatural, reverse. The low level of emotion when inserting a toy, rather than a penis, can become a source of self-confidence and pleasure.
Preparing for anal sex often hints at using an enema to cleanse the rectum. But this does not make much sense, since this part of the large intestine ensures the removal of digested food from the body. There is no feces as such in it, it is not stored there, only minor contamination is possible.
The technique of anal sex is a complete experiment. There is no concept or technique of anal sex in love. There are no rules in sex, there are prohibitions. Caresses have always helped and continue to help overcome them.
Caresses in the anus, friction in the buttocks, insertion of fingers, insertion of only the head of the penis, ejaculation - all this will be an excellent reason to put secret pleasure in first place, build a trusting relationship, and justify trust. And it doesn’t matter which partner the initiative came from.
These may be women’s favorite caresses, favorite variety in sex, although the initiative should come from the stronger sex. There are many nerve endings in the anal area, and the surface of the buttocks is also sensitive. An erotic fantasy of penetration may or may not be present.
Anal orgasm in women is a reality, it is not only a pleasure for men, despite the fact that anatomy does not imply the presence of a prostate. It is important to remember this, to experiment, to use the genitals, to enjoy them.
Carrying out treatment
After conducting research, the doctor will be able to determine what caused the anal sphincter insufficiency. Depending on the form of the disease, its severity, accompanying signs and localization of the pathological process, treatment is prescribed. Violation of the retention mechanism is treated conservatively and surgically.
The basis of conservative treatment is stimulation of neuro-reflex functions. It is carried out for patients with an inorganic form of insufficiency of the anal sphincters. In the organic form of the disease, training of reflexes of the anal muscles is carried out before and after surgery. This is done using electrical stimulation, which helps strengthen the muscles of the anus. The course is 10−15 days. Contraindicated in cases of high sensitivity of the anal canal receptors. Physical therapy, which is complemented by breathing exercises, helps well. Strength exercises are excluded. The goal of gymnastics is to strengthen the sphincter apparatus. During treatment, a diet is followed: limited consumption of “slagged” foods and liquids. Additional medications are prescribed to improve nerve conduction. These are preparations of B vitamins, ATP, prozerin, anabolic steroids.
The method of biological self-regulation helps to influence the functions of the sphincter through voluntary volitional efforts.
Psychotherapy is carried out: biofeedback (BFB) or biofeedback” (English term). First used in Israel. The essence of the method is to teach the patient self-regulation. Special exercises allow him to understand the disturbances in the functioning of the organ and influence its functions with voluntary volitional efforts. This effect is achieved through muscle relaxation (relaxation). The doctor monitors changes in the state of brain function using an electroencephalogram. The purpose of biofeedback is the restoration of nervous regulation after stress or due to functional disorders, conscious control of the anal sphincters. There are two types of method: power and coordination. With force, a balloon is inserted into the rectum, which the patient squeezes with voluntary movements. Such efforts help strengthen the muscles. The coordination method uses electrical stimulation in response to stretching of the anal capsule.
In case of organic form of weakness of the sphincters of the anus, its mechanical damage, surgical treatment is performed. If there is a large area of scar formation or significant stretching of the walls of the anal canal, surgical intervention is performed. Surgical treatment is not performed when there are disturbances in the nervous regulation of the pelvis. The main types of operations are sphincteroplasty and Stone's operation. During the manipulations, the affected scar tissue is excised in the first case. The second type of surgical intervention is performed for patients with congenital sphincter abnormalities. The distal section of the rectum is moved to the healthy section of the obturator apparatus (if it is damaged, gluteoplasty is performed using the muscles of the buttocks). Modern surgery makes it possible to cure insufficiency of the anal sphincters and strengthen them. These operations are complex. They should be performed by proctological surgeons.
